When we’re sad, our first instinct is often to close our doors and be alone.
And while that might feel like a good idea, it can be hard to cheer ourselves up once we’re on our own.
Getting a text from a friend is often just the thing we need to help us feel cared for and remind us of the exciting life that is waiting for us.
If a co-worker, friend, or loved one of yours seems down, reaching out to them via text can often help bring a smile back to their face.
Whether the person you’re reaching out to has gone through a breakup, had a bad day at work, or is just struggling with a period of low mood, your words can make a big difference.
Depending on the situation, you can try to cheer them up by suggesting plans, making them laugh, or just reassuring them that they are not alone.
31 ways to cheer someone up over text
- I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time. I’m here for you if you ever need to talk.
- If you’re around this weekend, let me know! I’d love to go to the cinema or for a walk together.
- Do you want to come out with me and my friends on Friday?
- I’m so sorry for your loss. If I can do anything to support you during this difficult time of grief, let me know.
- I know it seems like the end of the world right now, but I promise you won’t even remember this in five years.
- In the grand scheme of things, this is just a minor hiccough.
- You’re so much better off without her! As soon as you’re ready to get back out there, I’ll be the ultimate wingman.
- This too shall pass.
- I’m thinking of you, always. Remember that.
- I frequently get told I give great hugs, so if you ever need a cuddle, you know who to call.
- You don’t deserve this. You are beautiful and funny, and you have the biggest heart. You should be with someone who cherishes every part of you.
- Do you want me to come over and make us waffles? We can drown them in maple syrup and make towers of whipped cream…and then stuff our faces in front of a bad TV show.
- Okay, I’ve indulged your post-break-up sadness for a month now…but now you need to snap out of it. Get dressed, I’m taking you out for a drink, even if I have to drag you out the door.
- Get out of bed, loser, we’re going shopping.
- [Send a funny gif]
- [Send a zoomed-in funny photo of the two of you]
- [Send a video of you telling a joke]
- Here is a list of things I have done that are worse than the thing you are feeling bad about…
- Look, it could be so much worse. I mean, it’s definitely really bad, but it could still be worse.
- If you ask me, you should be celebrating, not feeling sad. That waste of space isn’t your problem anymore!
- Dear member #1242124423234, this is your welcome message from the Singles’ Club. We have designated you the wingman, [your name], who will be assisting you in making the most of your newfound independence. Please call her urgently to arrange your orientation.
- You are so loved.
- If you are up to it, make sure you’re taking care of yourself: eat good foods, get daily exercise, and read or watch something that relaxes you.
- The most important thing is that you find a way to feel better. Your happiness comes first, and if there is anything I can do to help you feel like yourself again, let me know.
- Hey, how are you feeling?
- I noticed you seemed a bit down today. I’m here for you if you want to talk about it.
- I’m sorry you’re feeling sad. Can I take you out for a coffee to cheer you up?
- You are so beautiful! I can’t stop looking at the picture you posted 😍
- I’ve been waiting to tell you this, but since you’re not feeling good, I figure I might as well just be honest. I really care about you, and I’d love to go out with you.
- You are gorgeous, witty, and incredibly smart. You deserve to be with someone who makes you genuinely happy.
- I’m sorry you aren’t doing so well. I always find that fresh air makes me feel a little better. Do you want to go for a walk together?
What to text a friend who is sad
No matter what your friend is sad about, they’ll appreciate seeing a notification from you pop up on their screen.
They may not be ready to respond yet, but knowing that you care about how they’re feeling will make them feel less alone.
That said, choosing the right words to send someone who isn’t doing well is hard.
You don’t want to upset them even more by saying the wrong thing, and while you want to cheer them up, you don’t want to make it seem like you aren’t taking their pain seriously.
However, it’s popular wisdom that a friend who tries to comfort you by saying something unhelpful is better than a friend who stays away for fear of choosing the wrong words.
In any case, you don’t need to worry about saying the wrong thing, because this article contains a handy list of texts to send to a friend who is sad.
1. I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time. I’m here for you if you ever need to talk.
This is the bread and butter of cheer-up texts. It is the perfect way to reach out to a friend who is feeling sad. $
It lets them know that they aren’t alone and that they can always reach out to you.
Of course, if you are the reason your friend is sad, you should apologize to your friend.
But reaching out even when you aren’t the cause of their sadness shows the true strength of your friendship.
The only downside of this text is that it isn’t very personal. If you’re really close to someone who is feeling bad, you may want to send something that references what they’re sad about.
2. If you’re around this weekend, let me know! I’d love to go to the cinema or for a walk together.
A sad person may think they don’t want to leave their bedroom. But actually, nine out of ten times, getting back out into the world and doing something fun is exactly what they need to start feeling better again.
Suggesting plans for a cinema trip or a dinner with friends may be exactly what your friend needs to start feeling like themselves again.
3. Do you want to come out with me and my friends on Friday?
Let’s say you have a friend who is feeling sad. They don’t have a big group of friends and wouldn’t feel comfortable inviting themselves out to socialize with your group of friends. Why not cheer them up by asking them to join you on a group night out?
Being included in a big group’s social plans can really boost a person’s mood.
Also, because they will have to be around new people, they’ll have to do a bit of social performing, which can actually help a person feel more like themselves.
4. I’m so sorry for your loss. If I can do anything to support you during this difficult time of grief, let me know.
When a friend is sad because they have lost someone close to them, it is a nice idea to send them flowers and a sympathy card telling them, “I am sorry for your loss.”
That said, it doesn’t hurt to also send a text message to cheer them up or at least let them know you’re thinking of them. Because they’re in mourning, they probably won’t appreciate you sending them jokes, so go for a sincere message of condolence, like this one.
5. I know it seems like the end of the world right now, but I promise you won’t even remember this in five years.
If someone is sad about something relatively minor that happened at work, with a sports team, or in their relationship, you can send them this text to give them some perspective.
They might not appreciate being told they are making a mountain out of a molehill (even if they are).
So, instead of mocking their reaction and telling them it is overblown, tell them that what is causing them to feel bad now is not actually that big of a deal.
6. In the grand scheme of things, this is just a minor hiccough.
This is another text you could send a friend if you think that what they’re sad about isn’t worth spending time worrying about.
Encouraging them to look at the bigger picture might help them see that they could have things much, much worse.
7. You’re so much better off without her! As soon as you’re ready to get back out there, I’ll be the ultimate wingman.
Look, we don’t always like our friends’ girlfriends and boyfriends.
And while you might feel obligated to make nice while they’re still together, once they’ve broken up you can be more candid about how you really feel about their ex.
If your friend is devastated over a break-up with someone that you didn’t think was a good match, you can tell them that they are much better off without their ex.
Next, try to bring a smile to their face by telling them you will wingman them whenever they want you to.
8. This too shall pass 💜
If a friend of yours is seriously struggling and you want to just send them a quick reminder that their pain is temporary, this message does the trick.
The purple heart emoji, which symbolizes compassion, love, and support, is a nice touch.
9. I’m thinking of you, always. Remember that.
Telling someone they are in your thoughts lets them know that even if they are alone right now, they are not really alone.
10. I frequently get told I give great hugs, so if you ever need a cuddle, you know who to call.
This is a cute text to send a sad friend that you want to make feel better. The offer of a hug never goes amiss, whether the person you offer it to actually takes you up on it.
Offering someone a hug in a text in kind of like giving them a virtual hug anyway. So basically, this text message is a great way to send your sad friend a virtual squeeze.
11. You don’t deserve this. You are beautiful and funny, and you have the biggest heart. You should be with someone who cherishes every part of you.
When someone is sad, it is often because they don’t feel appreciated.
Sending them words of admiration and love can make them feel seen and loved, which will go a long way toward helping them cheer up once they are ready to feel better again.
Funny ways to cheer someone up over text
If you want to cheer someone up, one of the best ways is to make them smile or laugh.
Humor is a great way to deal with hardship. It can actually help us cope with some devastating situations.
After all, they don’t say, “If you don’t laugh, you cry,” for no reason.
For example, imagine you have a sick friend. Instead of sending them a sincere message wishing a speedy recovery, you might be better off sending them a knock-knock joke.
Why? Because reminding someone of the thing that is making them sad will often just make them sadder.
Making someone laugh will generally make them see their difficulty through a more lighthearted lens.
12. Do you want me to come over and make us waffles? We can drown them in maple syrup and make towers of whipped cream…and then stuff our faces in front of a bad TV show.
They don’t call big portions of warm food comfort food for no reason. Whether your go-to emotional eating carb is a potato or a pancake, send your sad friend a funny text offering to cheer them up by making a large quantity of it.
13. Okay, I’ve indulged your post-break-up sadness for a month now…but now you need to snap out of it. Get dressed, I’m taking you out for a drink, even if I have to drag you out the door.
Sometimes you have to give a sulking friend some tough love. Break-ups are no fun. We all know this.
But there are times to help your friend by sympathizing with their pain, and times to help them out by pulling them up off the bathroom floor and making them come dancing with you.
14. Get out of bed, loser, we’re going shopping.
Ah, who doesn’t love an y2k-inspired reference to the cult classic that is the Mean Girls movie franchise?
A funny movie reference is almost always a great thing to text a sad friend.
This text will immediately make your friend picture Regina George leaning out of her daddy-bought car.
Of course, this text is also a genuine offer to go shopping, so if you’re going to send it, get ready to put your best mall outfit on.
15. Send a funny gif
What gif is appropriate to send your friend depends completely on the situation. Why are they sad? Could you send a gif that makes fun of a similar situation?
Alternatively, if you haven’t heard from your friend in a while, you can always send a gif that references their total absence from your life. Think someone shouting into a black abyss, “Is there anybody there-ere-ere…” or something similar.
16. Send a zoomed-in funny photo of the two of yo
If you have a funny picture of you and your friend together, zoom in on it. Make sure you highlight the least flattering parts of both of you. Then crop it.
You know what to do next. Receiving a funny, cropped photo of your faces will be sure to make them smile.
17. Send a video or voice note of you telling a joke
If you want to send a joke but want to make sure your tone of voice comes across, why not send a video or voice note of yourself telling it.
The more immature and sillier the joke, the better.
18. Here is a list of things I have done that are worse than the thing you are feeling bad about…
If you know that your friend is feeling bad or guilty about something specific they’ve done, you can note it in your text to cheer them up.
Try to make them laugh by referencing a whole series of terrible things that you have done. The more outrageous and personal, the better.
19. Look, it could be so much worse. I mean, it’s definitely really bad, but it could still be worse.
If the person you’re texting knows that they’ve messed up and are sad because they feel bad about what they’ve done, this is a great text to send. Provided they have a good sense of humor, of course.
20. If you ask me, you should be celebrating, not feeling sad. That waste of space isn’t your problem anymore!
One of the most common reasons people get sad is because they are having a difficult time with their partner.
If a friend of yours has just gone through a break-up and isn’t doing so well, tell them they should be celebrating shedding the “waste of space” that was their ex.
Hopefully, they’ll find it funny. If they don’t now, they might find it funny in two weeks.
21. Dear member #1242124423234, this is your welcome message from the Singles’ Club. We have designated you the wingman, [your name], who will be assisting you in making the most of your newfound independence. Please call her urgently to arrange your orientation.
If you want to take your friend out to show them all the aspects of single life that they’ve been missing out on while they’ve been in a relationship, this is a funny way to get the evening started.
What to text someone who is feeling down
If you have a friend who suffers with their mental health and who sometimes just stops being themselves, you can reach out to them to show your support.
Encourage them to take good care of themselves and tell them how much you value their friendship.
Knowing what to say to someone who is genuinely in a dark place can be tricky.
The most important thing when you’re helping cheer up a friend who isn’t doing well though, is to make sure you actually text them.
It barely matters what you say. Even just sending a series of heart emojis or a short, “Hey! How are you?” will do the trick.
Whatever you send will remind the person you’re texting that they aren’t alone and that there are plenty of people they could reach out to who care about their well-being.
22. You are so loved.
Darkness can swallow us all up sometimes. And some people are more affected by it than others.
If you have a friend who can get so down on themselves that they start to question whether anyone would even miss them, then this is a great text to send them.
It might not cheer them up right away, but it will certainly factor into how they feel about themselves.
It might eventually be the thing that tips them over the fence and motivates them to make an effort to invest in healthy self-care.
23. If you are up to it, make sure you’re taking care of yourself: eat good foods, get daily exercise, and read or watch something that relaxes you.
Encouraging a friend to look after their health is one of the most practical things you can do when they are struggling.
So often, the simple changes that feel impossible can end up making a world of difference to our mood and well-being.
Gently reminding your friend that their physical health behavior impacts their mental health may motivate them to engage in a healthy practice like going for a run or eating more vegetables. And both could genuinely help improve their mood.
24. The most important thing is that you find a way to feel better. Your happiness comes first, and if there is anything I can do to help you feel like yourself again, let me know.
People who experience low mood often worry too much about the things they are struggling to do rather than focusing their energy on getting well.
Giving your friend who is feeling down permission to look after themselves and to prioritize their own well-being may be exactly what they need to turn things around.
How to cheer up a girl over text message
In our modern world, the early stages of a relationship tend to involve a lot of texting.
If you’ve been getting to know a girl and she suddenly seems different, it may be because she isn’t feeling too good.
It can be awkward to talk about serious feelings when you’re just getting to know a girl but showing her you care about how she’s doing will mean a lot.
If you can tell she’s sad, ask her about how she’s feeling or offer to take her out to make her feel better.
If you have a crush on a girl and have been wanting to tell her for a while now, use this opportunity to lay your cards on the table.
25. Hey, how are you feeling?
It can be hard to know what to say to a girl you like to cheer her up over text. If you don’t want to say too much for fear of saying the wrong thing, just ask her how she’s feeling.
She’ll appreciate the opportunity to be able to explain what is upsetting her and working through it by talking about it will probably cheer her up.
You could also offer her a shoulder to cry on. Experts say that crying is good for you, and the sad girl in your life will probably cheer up after a good cry.
26. I noticed you seemed a bit down today. I’m here for you if you want to talk about it.
No matter how well we try to hide our emotions, the people who care about us can usually tell when we aren’t happy.
If a girl in your life isn’t being her usual self, and you suspect she’s feeling sad, send her a quick message letting her know that you’re there for her if she wants to talk.
27. I’m sorry you’re feeling sad. Can I take you out for a coffee to cheer you up?
Offering to take a girl out for a coffee, drink, or meal when she’s sad is a good way to cheer her up.
Who doesn’t want to be treated to an outing and a warm drink? And if you’re into her and suspect she might feel the same, then this is the perfect way to ask her out on a casual date.
28. You are so beautiful! I can’t stop looking at the picture you posted 😍
Telling someone “You are so beautiful” is a nice way to hint at “I have a crush on you” via text, without having to come right out and say it so explicitly.
Most girls appreciate getting compliments, so she will likely start to feel better about herself if you send this message.
29. I’ve been waiting to tell you this, but since you’re not feeling good, I figure I might as well just be honest. I really care about you, and I’d love to go out with you.
If a girl is feeling emotional, it might trigger you to want to tell her exactly how you feel about her.
Tell her you’d love to go out with her and don’t shy away from expressing how much you care for her.
If she likes you too, this will certainly cheer her up.
30. You are gorgeous, witty, and incredibly smart. You deserve to be with someone who makes you genuinely happy.
If a girl is sad because her boyfriend or girlfriend is being difficult, you can show your support by telling her she deserves better.
Compliment her looks, her intelligence, and her sense of humor and tell her that she deserves to be with someone who appreciates her fully.
31. I’m sorry you aren’t doing so well. I always find that fresh air makes me feel a little better. Do you want to go for a walk together?
Try to cheer up a girl over text by encouraging her to do things for her mental health. Offering to help her get in some exercise by suggesting going for a walk together is a nice place to start.
Plus, it means that the two of you get to spend a bit more time together.